Pointing the Finger…When Does It End?

Came across this article in the Washington Post by Alfie Kohn dated Sunday, July 18, 2010 entitled “Complaining about a generation of spoiled kids – again”.

Kids today, as he says, are being raised without the proper discipline or structure in order for them to learn about struggle and appreciate what they accomplish through hard work and sacrifice because their parents fail to let them fail on their own.  While I have to admit that I’ve seen first hand these kids he is referring to but I don’t buy into a generation of them.  It all goes back to their upbringing and what their parents or lack thereof have provided, role modeled, instilled, shared, and implemented with them.  We cannot fault kids themselves for being ignorant if they weren’t given the opportunity to experience it.  You could even take that a step further and pose the question…”can we fault a parent who was also raised the same way?” Perhaps we can once they become adults for not seeking resources to help them with their kids.  If they were never shown these options, are they doomed to never learn?  Can they be given the tools to make a change?  Will they always fall back on the first foundation of ignorance?  Can we eliminate their perception of narcissism or entitlement?  Whose responsibility does it become once they become an adult?